Ms. S. Sokugawa

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Is Saying Sorry Enough?

Written By: sokugawas - Nov• 02•17

When we do something by accident, the first word that often comes out of our mouth is “Sorry”.  As adults, we have encountered many situations where an apology is necessary, but have we ever stopped to question its sincerity?  With our children, we teach our children to “say sorry” when they have done something hurtful.  However, if the apology is not sincere, but rather said as an attachment to the situation that occurred, it now becomes an empty apology.  Today, I read a book titled, “Sorry!” by Trudy Ludwig.  It is about a boy named Charlie who feels that saying sorry will undo the hurtful things he does until one day he is asked to show that he is sorry.  Up until the point where Charlie has to demonstrate his apology, he had learned that saying sorry would make the situation disappear that he would intentionally hurt others knowing that a “Sorry” would solve the problem.  After reading the book, we talked about the four steps to being sorry.  

  1. I’m sorry for…: Be specific.  Show the person you’re apologizing to that you really understand what they are upset about.  (Wrong: I’m sorry for being mean.  Right: I’m sorry for saying that nobody wants to be your friend.)
  2. This is wrong because…: This might take some more thinking, but this is one of the most important parts.  Until you understand how they feel, I can’t tell you how much of a difference this makes!  Sometimes, people want to feel understood more than they want an apology.  Sometimes just showing understanding -even without an apology is enough to make them feel better! (Wrong: This is wrong because I got in trouble.  Right: This is wrong because it hurt your feelings and made you feel bad about yourself.)
  3. In the future I will… or Next time, I will…: Use positive language, and tell me what you WILL do, not what you won’t do.  
  4. Will you forgive me?: This is important to try to restore your friendship or the relationship.  Now, there is no rule that the other person HAS to forgive you.  Sometimes, they won’t.  That’s their decision.  Hopefully, you will all try to be kind of individuals who will forgive easily, but that’s not something you automatically get just because you apologized.  

Touch and Personal Space (TAPS)

Written By: sokugawas - Oct• 30•17

On October 30, 2017, Ms. Blair, the school counsellor, came into our class to talk about “Touch and Personal Space” (TAPS), a program developed by the Vancouver School Board to help us with our understanding about personal space.  We all have an invisible boundary (personal space) that is like an invisible bubble.  Usually our bubble is bigger the front and back, and smaller on the sides.  Sometimes, our bubble shrinks depending on the situation such as a line up or at carpet time.  For strangers, the bubble needs to be much much bigger.  Humans cannot survive without touch so touch is important.  However, the touch needs to be healthy  and mutual where both people or beings (pets) like it.  There are nine (9) kinds of touches that Ms. Blair talked about.  

  1. No Touch – Lining up or carpet time is an example of “No touch”.  Hands are to ourselves and it is not necessary to touch the person beside us or in front of us.  
  2. Loving Touch – Another way to view this would be family touch.  This is the kind of touch that families share such as hugging one another.  
  3. Friendly Touch – This is the kind of touch that occurs when we give a friend or a teammate a high five for doing a good job.  
  4. Fix-it Touch – This is the kind of touch given by a doctor or dentist when they are taking care of our bodies and keeping us well.  
  5. Accidental Touch – This kind of touch is done accidentally when losing our balance or not paying attention to our surroundings.  
  6. Space Invader Touch – This kind of touch happens when we are not mindful of our invisible bubble and we slowly start to go into someone else’s bubble.  
  7. Hurtful Touch – This kind of touch happens often when we are angry and lash out due to our emotions.  Calming our bodies down first rather than retaliating with help alleviate this kind of touching.  
  8. Confusing Touch – This kind of touch is one where we are not sure whether it was an accident or intentional and more questions need to be asked before we understand why it happened.  
  9. Problem Touch – This kind of touch is not appropriate to talk about at school or in public.  If this kind of touch occurs, it is important to let a tusted adult know right away so it can be resolved.  

We will use these names to help identify the kind of touching that occurs so that we can become more mindful and make better choices.  

Actions Speak Louder Than Words!

Written By: sokugawas - Oct• 18•17

During the week of October 16, we have been reviewing the words of  the Tribes Agreements and the importance of each meaning.  We have been revisiting each component of our Tribes Agreements and learning how our actions are sometimes hurtful when we are not thinking about their implications.  Therefore, remembering to make good choices will result in safe, kind, and fair behaviour, which are “The Big 3” and the goal here at Gilmore school.  Furthermore, we have been reading books to help us with our understanding so that we can demonstrate appropriate behaviour and model how we are being safe, kind, and fair.  

  • Willow Finds a Way by Lana Buttons
  • Willy and Hugh by Anthony Browne
  • A Bad Case of Stripes by David Shannon
  • We’re All Friends Here by Nancy Wilcox Richards
  • All for Me and None for All by Helen Lester
  • Jerimiah Learns to Read by Jo Ellen Bogart
  • Me First by Helen Lester
  • When Pigs Fly by Valerie Coulman


Written By: sokugawas - Oct• 18•17

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Steps to Success

Written By: sokugawas - Oct• 11•16

wall-837313_640-1We are on the stairway of learning–we can go back a step or two to retrace where we have come from, and then proceed upwards to demonstrate what we have learned.  Without making “mistakes”, we cannot learn and become better than we were before we made our mistake.  They are the glitches that are needed to learning and improving.  The most important part however, is learning from those glitches.

Helpful Learners

Written By: sokugawas - Oct• 11•16

 social-media-909708_640What an amazing start to the school year, Division 14!  Learning new routines, learning new words, making new friends, and learning to work together.  The students are discovering their strengths and the strengths of others so they can work together and help each other learn and grow.  Well done!

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